WHY YOUR WOMAN DOESN’T WANT TO BE PHYSICAL WITH YOU
It isn’t uncommon for many men to feel a sense of disappointment and frustration when they discover that their partner isn’t as comfortable being physical. Even if both of them have verbally expressed their love for each other, shared goals and dreams about the direction of their relationship in the future, it is when the physical aspect of these relationships seems to stall for one party.
What commonly becomes challenging for these men to accept is the thought that they might have to work harder at building or strengthening the emotional connection they have with their partner. It is this emotional bond which is so important because without that, she may not feel an intense enough level of appreciation and closeness to the point where she truly desires acts such as kissing or participating in sexual activities, amongst others.
At times, men can misunderstand this specific behavior as a sign that their partner doesn’t love them the way they want to be loved, or that she thinks of them as unattractive, or even that she has fallen in love with someone else. But one thing that needs to be understood is that this is not necessarily the case or the reality.
While for many women, emotional intimacy is a primary need, physical intimacy is often ranked as a primary need for many men. If you really want to develop and maintain a healthy and fulfilling relationship, it is very important that you give equal weight to both kinds of intimacy.
Just as you may feel very strongly attracted to physical intimacy with her, she wants to feel deeply emotionally connected to you. The close emotional connection can ease and increase her willingness to be physically intimate with you by a lot.
The fact that she does not feel much for you now does not mean that she cannot feel deeply for you someday. Do not neglect or bypass her feelings but try to figure out exactly how she feels. Also, try to create a comfortable and safe environment for her so that she could open up her feelings, worries, and vulnerabilities without fear of judgment and rejection.
Open and honest communication, active listening, empathy, and understanding are the things you have to zero in on. She needs to feel heard and valued. Make time for her. Respect her views, suggestions, and input. Don’t do things that will break the trust you share.
Once she starts to feel a deep sense of security, a real sense of belonging, and unshakeable support from you, then, and only then, will she begin to form an emotional connection with you that is deep and meaningful. Your woman must have a powerful and significant emotional connection with you before she can feel comfortable being physical with you in any way at all.
It is very important that you do not focus solely on you getting your needs and desires met. The key to getting your woman to meet your needs begins by first making sure that you are meeting her needs with care and sensitivity.
Finally, remember, “And look out for one another’s interests, not just for your own” – Philippians 2:4 (GNT).
