WITHOUT FRIENDSHIP, THERE IS NO RELATIONSHIP
The essence of relationship or marriage is to choose someone as a friend for life. It’s interesting to know that, people can agree to be your partner or spouse but they are not willing to be your best friend. This behaviour has made some people think marriage is so difficult and not something enjoyable.
For the singles in various relationships, please check the strength of your friendship. How long your partner will stay with you depends on how strong the friendship between you two is. Friends are not only people you gossip with or share a good or happy moment with but also the difficult moment of their lives.
If you are with a partner who is uncomfortable listening to the difficult things you go through and try to prevent you from sharing or avoid listening, such a relationship is bound to fail. If you cannot talk to partner about your bad, sad or difficult moment, they have no business being in your life as a spouse.
The fact that you went through something bad does not mean you want them to fix it or be responsible for it. Their role as a friend is to share your burden by listening to know how you feel. And if they think they have the capacity to fix the problem or find a solution, that is a bonus. Just listening without resolving the issue is a way of helping your partner feel better, for a problem shared is half way solved.
The role of a friend is not to judge when a friend goes through something bad or faces difficulties. Your duty is not to criticize them or school them or make them feel worse than they feel. Unfortunately, that is how some people treat their spouse. How can your marriage last if you make your partner feel the worst for a mistake or a difficult thing they go through?
Being a spouse or partner, your role is to lift your fallen partner up and if you don’t have what it takes to lift them up, you can sit with them but you don’t abandon or neglect them because they faced difficulties. Without friendship, there is no relationship or marriage.
In conclusion “Share each other’s troubles and problems, and so obey our Lord’s command” – Galatians 6:2 (TLB).
